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Judging Someone Does Not Define Who They Are - (It Defines Who You Are)

Derek Strike

First impressions are created in just 7 seconds¹.

In fact, it takes 1/10th of a second to start creating, and we come to a conclusion within 7 seconds about how we ‘feel’ about someone².

First impressions play a significant role in our everyday lives.

But how accurate are they?

Initially, when we meet someone for the first time, body language is more important than what is being said. This judgment is made by observing information about a person: including their face, smile, appearance, posture, how they smell, eye contact, handshake, and tone of voice.

You are being judged on your looks before you’ve even said anything.

We are trying to feel for something familiar that makes us feel safe.

Why? It’s instinctive. Our ancestors needed to determine if a stranger was a threat or not.

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What are the dangers of first impressions?

So you’ve just met and got a good ‘feel’ for the person. But are you being your natural…

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Derek Strike
Derek Strike

Written by Derek Strike

Writing is about becoming conscious. Nothing in life is of any value unless it is shared with others. Love to learn and be challenged.

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When getting to know someone I always try to remember to watch how they behave over time more than the words that they use. Great points, excellent article!

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Your initial reaction to the person prompts their response to you

Excellent point, Derek. People can tell

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We are basing the foundation of a relationship on assumptions, individual preferences, ideology, prejudices, and what’s currently socially acceptable.

These biases and heuristics served us well when it was a matter of basic survival. Nowadays, less well

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